Just an observation but I also think the language that we use when talking to people not in recovery is very important too. When you mentioned the “I won’t judge you” part of your response I did recoil a little. I think that this was a negative reaction to you feeling judged so something you need to work on and not let people make you feel that way. Also it kind of says or comes across as “what I think you are doing is wrong but I won’t hold it against you” or “whilst you are judging me I am not going to judge you because I am a better person than you are”. That would get my back up. Just an observation though. xx