it reads like someone that doesnt like structure complaining about it.
2 choices:
baby him and keep allowing him to complain(which he probably did a lot when drinking)
or
tell him talk to one of the counselors there about these issues- time for him to get out of the underoos and into some big boy britches and suck it up.
i have a feeling he doesnt know what recovery looks like so he cant say it doesnt look like recovery.
on this:
I don’t know what to think.
you dont have to think anything on it- its his recovery and his choice.
its your choice whether you allow the guilt trip.you can stop it at any time or not even allow it to start. you are allowed to walk out of the visit at any time.
you are allowed to set boundaries and have consequences when they are breached.
which ya may want to htink about what you will do if he leaves rehab early- set a boundary on that