I was a mom like you - cracked open the wine while making dinner, finished it (plus) before binging on food and going to bed. Did this for most of my son’s 24 years. Thought I did a decent job raising him - he’s a college graduate, heading off to grad school. He’s a decent, caring human being.
Except that we are now getting to fight our addictions together. He had a great example of nightly drinking to follow, saw his parents “successfully” maneuver through life while binging nightly. It’s no wonder he never had a chance in this area.
I’m on day 21 (and down seven pounds). He’s on day 2. His dad won’t quit drinking.
Don’t grow up to be like us.