You know, still living with someone who has some issues with alcohol abuse is very stressful for me, and I find my ACOA desire to control his use really painfully uncomfortable quite often.
Not to mention how much it can tempt me to drink as well. But that's another issue.
I think stepping back as you still live with the person is healthy--it isn't a short term recovery when so many of the behaviors are still there even if he is working on them.
You've come a huge distance. Do more yoga and relax as you need--the issues will work themselves out over time.
I just started back to my hot yoga and one rigorous day or "regular" slow flow yoga, and it is life-changing. I second your endorsement!