Beach.....I read that you "keep hoping that she will realize all that she is destroying..."
Be aware that "hope" is not a plan.....With an active alcoholic, hope will get you no where. Action is what will help you.....
Actions that are in the best interest of you and the children.....she is being controlled by her disease and cannot be counted on to protect the children...so, that becomes your first responsibility, as a parent.
I suggest the following first actions....
1. Educate yourself. Knowledge is power. It sounds like you don't know much about the nature of alcoholism.....lol...Who does?....unless they have had a special reason to learn about it. The general public is very ignorant about it...even the ones who live with alcoholism....
Professionals even have to undertake extra specialized education and experience to deal with it....
You won't be able to "help" her....as she will need the help of professionals and support groups. like AA, for that....
We have an excellent library of articles, here on SR, that will give you a boot camp start...over 100 articles...called "classic Readings"...contained within the stickies....in case you can't find them...here is a link, for you to get started....
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)