There is a guy who comes to my home group meeting a lot. And he goes to lots of other meetings. I mean, lots! He has just celebrated a year sober and he doesn't work the steps, hasn't got a sponsor, I don't think he has even opened the Big Book. He holds hands when we close the meeting , but he doesn't join in the Serenity Prayer. Would I want his recovery? No. For me personally, I need the steps, I need the Big Book. It is helping me with EVERYTHING. But my journey is my journey and his journey is his journey. We have one thing in common. A desire to stop drinking. And it is clearly working for him. The steps are suggested. You don't have to do anything. And if other people have a problem with that then it is their problem. It is your life and you have to do whatever it takes to stay sober.
Good luck on your journey. 😀