trailmix, "victim mentality" is spot on!!! I was raised in a family where every addict (most of them still active in addiction) perpetuate this point of view. It's so toxic and takes real effort on my behalf to not get sucked into this way of thinking.
Luckily, both my husband and mother look at things from the complete opposite viewpoint which is the "it's just life" stuff, and focus more on the blessings.
A huge part of my recovery I think, is moving from one side of the spectrum to the other
