Originally Posted by pdm22

When you are getting to know someone, a person’s attachment style comes into play too (secure, anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant). Maybe you guys have different attachment styles, and it’s bringing stuff up (along with everything else you’ve been going through)?

I also agree it’s a very basic and real human need to love and to be loved, and to feel accepted and included. We are social creatures after all. Maybe you weren’t getting this from the ex, and maybe you will or maybe you won’t get what you need from this new guy. Maybe your friends, or other types of supports, will end up being what’s most helpful for you?