Originally Posted by trailmix

Ah if only you could erase every insult he has every cast your way.

And that is just what it is you know, a controlling way to put someone down. I mean what can you do with that statement?

So there you are, in this really dysfunctional relationship. He is narcissistic and controlling and then he says - "you are too needy".

Well isn't that just the icing on the cake.

What he was really saying is you need to NOT need anything from me, ever. Don't put your feelings or needs on my plate, no room here, I'm really busy focusing on myself. All you are left with is no support and a nice "label". Nice guy.

Here is a book you might find interesting, don't know if it will speak to you but it might. I've only read the sample but I have read about the author:

Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse
by Jackson MacKenzie