Hi, LizAnon.
I think that when we make a connection with another person, we invest an awful lot into that connection.
It isn't just the person, it's the life that we envision with that person.
Powerful stuff, and tough at times to unhook from.
It sounds like your SO just isn't present for you when you want him to be.
He drinks, he flirts, he lies.
These, for me, are deal breakers.
But that's me.
Good thoughts headed your way.