Dear sad dad. Been there done that ,have the t shirt. I under stand not pressing charges when your son took your money. I have been robbed my addict, stolen checks,credit cards. Pressing charges wont do anything.They just get fines and probabtion. The same with drug paraphernalia. My kid has been on probabtion 3 years,actively using the whole time. The only thing that got her in to treatment was me stopping every type pf support. Which is hard,practically impossible. She was clean for 6 months,but I see it slipping away. Try to stay strong.If he wants to change,tell him you will drive him to rehab,but no money for food or a trop to his girlfriend.