My son was no show/no reply to invitations this holiday season.
First time he has done this...he's shown up hungover, he's shown up drunk, he's shown up just wonderful!...A couple of years ago, I told him that he was not welcome in our home drunk or hungover, and for 2 years, he managed to pull it off on all kinds of celebrations and holidays.
But as it has been said, this is a progressive disease...and I suppose it is no longer worth the trouble to be with his family.
I am heartbroken, but I have faith that his journey will eventually lead him to recovery and long-term sobriety.
I will continue to reach out to him when it makes sense, and I will continue to invite him with no expectations because every day is an opportunity for him to hit bottom and change his behavior. I want him to know that when that day comes, he is welcome as he always has been.