Originally Posted by
Wamama48 
My RAH has been stuck (his words) on step 4 for several months. He said his sponser has been encouraging him to start step 4, and a few people at his AA meetings have been encouraging him to start too.
He has become grouchier and more self absorbed. He says he's depressed and doesn't have much motivation. Knowing that, I must have been crazy to think I could count on him for some support.
i could comment on a bit:
a person that has completed the first 3 steps will jump into the 4th without hesitation. one line from the BB that came to mind:
Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless
at once. not next week or next month.
followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us.
many many times ive seen people get to step 4 and pause. many end drinking again. many are a dry drunk until that drink happens .others pop their heads outta their buts and continue with the steps.
it might be wise to not count on someone that is mentally unavailable for support
p.s.
on this
Do RA's normally turn into a complete a** when they get close to 1 year!?
anyone who isnt working to change- yes they do.