I should be more appreciative to his mom for everything she does for me, I see it as she doesnt do crap for me and my two older kids, only her grandaughter and her son. He is telling me what I should do in the am when I drop off my daugher, I should be getting out of the car like a daughter in law should and hug and kiss her neck and be thankful.
But this isn't about your MIL, this is about your husband trying to exert excessive control over you.
THAT'S the behaviour you don't have to allow in your life.