But he's a lying hurtful mean abusive addict.
Yes he is.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry you are hurt and I'm sorry he's such a jerk and can't accept what a valuable friend you are.
He is totally out of control. While he may indeed be a great person under all that, he is far, far, far away from being in touch with any of that and there is absolutely no way you are going to see the "good guy" anytime soon.
He has a history of shockingly horrible behaviour toward you, this latest example is just one more thing. Who the hell does he think he is to treat anyone that way and in particular you!
Furthermore, if you look outside of this a bit what exactly is he doing.
- Hurting his parents that have had to stop contact with him
- Going against the wishes of his cousin who has tried to help him and is supporting him financially and giving him a roof over his head and literally took him in off the street.
-Running hot and cold with you and is UNABLE to treat you with any kind of care or respect.
- Proving that he has zero intention of following through with any kind of sobriety at this point as discussed with you and the cousin (and probably anyone else who will listen).
It is understandable to have compassion for him (yes, even I do, just barely and I don't even know him). But the bottom line is he cannot be trusted with anyone's feelings, not you, not his parents not his cousin's. He is incapable of looking after himself or anyone else.
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