Hi RainyEngland - I don't know of any men only recovery chat rooms but I'm sure you could google some.
You're also very welcome to post in our men only Mens Room Forum
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mens-room/
I think Carls on the ball tho - maybe 'marriage and life and the stupid things you do' isn't really the root of the problem, but the symptom?
I get it - it may seem like the root if that's what you feel you're drinking over.... but what if its the other way around ?
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