Thanks to all of you. I really needed this insight from you all. She is off on the Greyhound Bus, my mother and I saw her off. I'll check in with the officials to make sure she arrived, otherwise in my heart I'm done with the doing. The castle doors are closed. Now to focus on getting mom off my payroll. That one is a bit trickier. My goal is by June to get her to be self sufficient. Long Story but she is overpaid and underqualified for the unnecessary job we have given her with our business. My son will be going off to college by August and I need to rid all these hangers on... Thanks again and I don't know how I've managed sanity. My recovery is #1!!! and that will not be taken away from me by this self created codependent situation I have allowed.