Something I heard a long time ago………………..
“Family” is not a license for abuse. Just because they are “family” doesn’t give anyone the right to abuse verbally, physically, emotionally or financially other members of the family.
Detachment with love works but usually first we have to make our way through the FOG
F…….fear
O….obligation
G….guilt
We fear for them, we feel obligated because they are “family” and when we take healthy actions for ourselves we feel guilty.
Blanket yourself in healthy support – AA – Al-anon, SR, therapy whatever feels safest and is readily available to you and keep all the non-healthy people as far away as possible, you have that right to do so!!