Everyone has the right to follow their own path and do what works for them. It is a reality alcohol is all around us and to keep a dry house if a partner drinks is a difficult thing.

We can't exist in a bubble where there is no alcohol and we only interact with sober people.

i do think to make a judgement on whether a person can drink alcohol and enjoy it sensibly is not ours to make.

What i I have difficulty with is the physical act of going to a licker store picking out alcohol and purchasing it. I can see that this would fulfill a desire but think it is very risky.

Very interesting thread this one. I feel you are trying hard to convince yourself and defend yourself. I am not a fan of AA but their saying 'Be true to thine self' is a good one.