First party, 14 mo. First wedding, about 18. I am 2 yr going on 10 mo sober. I was very conservative perhaps, and began my socializing in one on ones around 90 some days. I also discovered what I really enjoy- small groups, time with my most important people, and being home. I have never had a regret declining ANY situation, including fam holidays in my 2d year.
Note- I am an AA person, so I've had ongoing dialogue and program based decisions all along. I DID decide to go back to work in a restaurant at 5 mo sober, and also began dating my now husband. Big caveat here- he is also in recovery....and was my high school bf so I knew with absolute certainty he was trustworthy.
My emotional then physical sobriety come before anything else, as the former precedes the latter.