He is an adult, he can live as he see fit.
You are an adult, you can live as you see fit.
When you have had enough, you will take the necessary steps, and exit the crazy train madness.
As long as you allow this , it will continue. If you want change , YOU are going to have to be the change.
I am reading Your pain and absolute frustration , and I truly feel for you. This is no way to live, you deserve better. Save yourself.
It all begins and ends in our minds. What we give power to, is what controls us. As long as we allow it.
Time to address your life needs.