FallenAngelina

Because we have looked outside of ourselves for so much and we are lost when that is suddenly not there. The only way forward in health is to redirect our thoughts and do things differently. Like the alcoholic stops the drinking, the cessation of the addiction is only the beginning of our recovery. We really can't let go of our codependent thinking so much as we practice reaching out in other, healthier directions until they become the new habits. What is your recovery plan? What is your daily health regime? What are your practices for allowing healthier influences? What is your experience with a higher power/god/Great Spirit? Developing a clear and consuming health plan is the way to effectively redirect during the early stages of NC. This is why Al-Anon can be so helpful because it provides a program that we can use as a framework as we change our habits of thought. Do you have yoga classes near you? Meditation groups? Running clubs? All of these places are full of people who are going in the direction that you want to go. All of these can be elements of your new health plan - total health. The road to recovery from codependence is much, much more than simply reading books. Right now, we (I'm in the same place) need to fill our lives with people and activities that are part of our own recovery.