Awal…..he knows he is drinking. You know he is drinking.
There is no secret.
He wants to drink....and, keep you off his back.
You want him to not drink...period.
Two different goals. Two different motivations.
There can never be a "meeting of the minds" in this matter.
He is miserable (it is not fun to be an alcoholic). And...it drives you Krazy….
Eventually....something has to change....in a more major way...
You seem to do much better when you are not in close proximity to him and the household....