Originally Posted by
Awal 
Can l ask what reaction you got at the mere suggestion you wanted him/her to go somewhere with you?
Totally depended on context--if they were drinking, either didn't care or angry I had the nerve to leave them on their own.
Not drinking, usually an excuse why they couldn't go, and often a guilt trip about why I shouldn't go either, or not for long. Watch would certainly be checked visibly when I got back, or a phone call should I be gone "too long" in their estimation.
Typically, plenty is drunk while I'm out, since they don't have to hide it and they are on their own pity party of isolation.
It becomes, or will become, quite unpredictable to know how much they will knock back in your absence.
What has formerly been somewhat under control will gradually slip into benders. They hide it well at first, but lose the ability in the end.
I've seen this in many chronic drinkers--not just my "main" addicts.
The line gets blurry over time, and they start to stumble over it more and more.