[But he just ups the ante when I ignore the provocation; drags the kids into it so I will have to step in on their behalf.




QUOTE=PeacefulWater12;7056250]Well done on detaching. Your AH will do what he will do. Is same in my home.

I detach and take care of myself.

My AH will often try and "bait" me to get a reaction. I give none. I move away.
It felt to me that my reaction would help him feel entitled or less guilty about the drunk he was about to go on. Shift the blame onto my shoulders.

My shoulders are not for others to dump on.

I found detaching got easier and easier with practise, like all new skills.[/QUOTE]