Currently, he has nothing of any value to contribute to our daughter's life. Unfortunately, the whole "it's for the best" platitude offers little solace at the moment.
The way I see it, there are three scenarios:
A) he keeps drinking and stays out of her life as has been the case for over a year now
B) he keeps drinking and is in her life
C) he stops drinking and is in her life
Now, I know that A is better than B, but C is the ideal, and I still had hope that it was a remote possibility. Now that he just left, with no notice and no goodbye thanks to a combination of the restraining order and his absolute lack of human decency, any small shred of hope I had left that he would do the right thing and try to be a part of our daughter's life is gone.
And it wasn't until today that I realized how much I relied on that hope.