I understand your hearts in the right place AAPJ - but again I'd like to re-iterate to new members that folks are free to share as much, or as little, as they like here.
I get so many people PMing me worrying about anonymity here than I feel like it's a good idea to re-state that again officially, like Anna did..
You're free to ask if you think it will help - but members are free to refuse too.
No one should ever feel forced to volunteer information here
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