Originally Posted by hopeful4

Your focus should be on your and your child solely. How old is your child?

While I think it's wonderful you go to alanon, getting counseling from a counselor who is well versed in addiction issues would be so valuable, FOR YOU.

I say that b/c I did just the same. It helped me to build myself up and put my steps forward to be strong enough to protect my children and to know that whatever the outcome, I would be strong enough to handle that.

Please know most children are excellent at blaming themselves. In your conversations make sure your child knows he is in no way at fault for what is happening and that there is nothing he can do to change the behaviors.