Originally Posted by Ladybird579
I am the one left with all the responsibility. I am the one so damaged by our lives together there is not enough lifetime left to fix me. I avoid people. I live like a recluse. I don't think I am good enough. I still see myself through his eyes.
This is one of those tapes in our minds that we have become conditioned so well to believe that *we* play them over and over again to ourselves.
It's not true.
You are plenty good enough.
You can make friends if that is what you want.
You can ask Mr. Big Boy to leave once your son has exited the room.
You don't have to have him in your house if you don't want to because if he wants to see his son badly enough, he will figure something out.
I had to work hard to reframe my life and my world view after being divorced by my unfaithful, mentally abusive ex-husband. But reframe it, I did.
I know you can, too!! Hang in there! You are worth every effort for a better life
