Originally Posted by MantaLady

I know how hard it is to not be down on yourself for things done in the past but no amount of thinking and turning it over or self loathing is going to undo what has been done. Bit of a stupid analogy but makes sense to me....

There is no point in worrying and stressing about milk that was spilt yesterday. No amount of thinking is going to unspill that milk. However, all you need to concentrate on is not spilling any more milk today. With time you will have many many days worth of "I didnt spill any milk yesterday" thoughts in your positive emotional bank account, each day is a new deposit of positivity that you can make a withdrawl against in times of real need.

One day at a time, today is all that matters, not yesterday and not tomorrow. Just make yourself proud today and soon things will not feel so dark and overwhelming. xx