Hello,
Sorry for all you've got going on in life right now. I'm glad you are sober and able to be there to support your brother, and your mom, that will make a big difference for them.
I'm getting close to three years sober, and during that time I've dealt with deaths, family illness, financial issues, and some health scares of my own, but I was able to deal with them with a clear head. The past three years are also filled with wonderful everyday memories, being present when my son scores a goal, my daughter performs, and my other daughter competes during a race, being fully present during holidays, birthdays, and for all the day to say stuff. I wouldn't trade that for anything.