if you ate intetested in doing the step work, it will be about amending harm done where possible, not just apologizing.
i don't know if you have done any steps at all, and i remember very clearly that step nine, the actual making of amends, is something that kept me away from AA for a long time, and later kept me from starting the steps.
fear.
and disbelief that by the time i got to 9, i would be very ready.
in any case, the program as laid out in the big book is very clear on concerns about consequences to ourselves and speaks about the general principles relating to this on page 79.
yep, sounds scary if you are just starting out.
but you will be ready if you follow the process of getting there.