Originally Posted by
orderfororder 
I'm sorry, but how is this helpful? People on this forum seem to go back and forth between whether or not this is a disease or a choice. That lack of internal consistency is itself a problem for people who are in the throes of addiction is it not?
Again, I don't mean to disrespect you or anybody who agrees with you. But what I'm seeing is an attempt to use shame as a motivator for change, when those feelings of shame might be what turns certain people straight back to their addiction in the first place.
It's definitely not meant as shame and I'm sorry if it sounded that way.
I was surprised when Sweeti said she was 'shocked' by the doctor's news because she has been dealing with many health issues for quite awhile. Of course, I know, we are alcoholics and we react to most anything by drinking. And, I was not attempting to shame Sweeti, but was genuinely surprised that she felt so shocked by the doctor's diagnosis that it led her to drink.