My ultimate question is, is she ever going to realize what she is doing to her family? Is she going to come back when she is better and try to make this right? I can wait. She is worth it to me, but if its a lost cause then I need to do what is best for me and move on.
Really no way to know. I wouldn't count on it.
I know there is a whole big ball of shame involved here - and yes, it may be easier to just walk away and not deal with it. If that's what she does, then the consequences are hers and hers alone. When I try to diagnose/mind-read/predict the future it never goes well for me. I'm not good at it!
The answers will come to you in time. Nothing about this is going to be easy. Sounds like you have some good support - that will help a lot in those dark moments - make sure to call them when you need them.
I did a lot of working things out in writing, too. Keep posting.
