Thanks for the replies. It's good to know other have the same experiences. Sad tho. What Dandy said is true. My foa did and still do lie to me if they get the chance. The most recent my father saying my sister was having a party in her home town for her wedding cos close family who lived further away had not been invited. There were 96 public photos on facebook showing the opposite. Everyone was there. She just hadn't invited me. She's an alcoholic and she knows I know. The party never happened.
The "friend's" latest text to me giving her reason for lying constantly about her whole life is bizarre. It is so weird I do not know how to answer it. I doubt I will.
It seems I need yet more work on myself. I don't think I have enough lifetime left to deal with the last nearly 60 years of stuff. I am going to concentrate on building up my business and look after my boys as they go onto the next chapter of their lives.