Originally Posted by
atalose 
Not to diminish how he may have felt about you at one time and what the two of you shared, active addicts tend to reduce everyone in their life to being a resource. He keeps you hooked with his words, maybe in case where he is at today all falls apart and he needs a soft landing like he did when he was kicked out of sober living. He's thrown all kinds of unacceptable behavior at you yet you keep wanting to hold on.
Quoted for truth. This is one of those things in life that really sucks that it’s true, kind of like calories= consequences :/. But yeah, someone active in their addiction who is a mess, and isn’t stable enough to have their own basic needs met, is pretty much scrambling and going around doing damage control, networking / looking for resources.
But at the end of the day, it’s the actions of the person that really matter. Words get old, if they meant anything, the person on the receiving end of the actual behaviors probably wouldn’t feel so horrible. It’s imprtant to pay attention to how a person makes you feel. When dealing with an addict, the occasional highs that are felt rarely make up for the horrible lows, it’s such an awful state to be in
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