You neighbor is 1000% correct, you are one of the lucky ones you did dodge a bullet.
I do not know the answer to your above posted question, maybe someone who has been in recovery for a long time can respond to that question.
I would like to ask you a question shredder, how or why does this apply to you?
So let’s just say the answer is yes, they are unable to keep track of time. And 4 years feels like a day, then what?
I spent many years trying to rationalize someone else’s behaviors, actions,poor choices, character, made excuses for his mental state of mind, and for what? And why? He was perfectly FINE living in his alcohol soaked brain. To this day he still chooses to live that way, and I am thinking it’s been seven years since we were together.
I do understand how difficult it is to go forward when we keep looking back, and looking for a logically explanation of an illogical situation.