Glenjo, don't know if you will find this talk helpful but I found it really interesting, it discusses mental wellness but also rumination.
We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. But we don’t have to. He makes a compelling case to practice emotional hygiene — taking care of our emotions, our minds
https://www.ted.com/talks/guy_winch_...tional_hygiene