Tealstars just a bit over 3 & a half years ago my drinking got to the point where my marriage ended & I moved out of the family home (mainly so that I could keep drinking without those pesky "family responsibilities"). I've posted my story on the "Stories Of Recovery" forum, if you want to read the sordid details
I completely agree with Radix's post - in fact, I had to double-check to make sure I didn't write it myself!!
From my own experience the best advice I can give is to forget moderation (whatever the hell that means, I never "moderated" my drinking, there were just times I drank less), focus on getting & staying alcohol free & replacing unhealthy habits & patterns of behavior with healthy ones. The best thing you can do is to clean yourself up, physically & spiritually.
Sending you good vibes & positive thoughts, hope it all goes well