It's one step forward and ten steps back. In counseling with my children is when it really became a realization. Some codie was I believe are ingrained in who we are, so it does rear it's head sometimes. That, and being so usto having to run our lives for my entire adult life. You are so usto controlling everything that it becomes second nature, and truly causes a panic when it's not possible.
I cannot ever say I am 100% better, but I can sure say I recognize it quickly, admit it, and try to correct it as best as I can.