Originally Posted by
hopeful4 
I am the codependent mother. Or I was.
I absolutely have damaged my children and will spend a long time trying to heal that. It makes me so sad.
hopeful, we are in the same boat with this. Some times the guilt eats me up. That isn't what I want for my mum, so I don't ever tell her everything she did "wrong"... that would just be mean at this point in our lives.
Like you, I just try to be a better example to my kids, now that I know better, I do better.