Wow, B, it sounds like you and I have had pretty parallel experiences with our mothers. I love my mum, I'm grateful for the
good mothering she provided.. but I guess I'm still upset about the codependent tendencies... I hope this wont always be the case as I advance in my own recovery from codependence.
I'd like to thank everyone who has posted... I'm grateful for this SR family that always wraps their arms around me and makes me feel understood when I'm feeling fragile. It's a relief not to feel alone in this stuff I'm working through.