Thank you Gelfing! You are so right - for so long - although I have continued working on ME I still somehow end up putting his needs first and doing what I think would be best for him or US but not often just for ME ....
It seems as he has always been the more "obviously" sick person in our household all the attention seems to focus on him - it isi still after all this time hard to know what I want or need - the fist thing I still think of is "I want him to get better"....
Ahh - I really need to focus on the Al-Anon program right now..