Hi Lauren,
I was at an AA meeting one night with one of my pigeons. When the meeting was over and we were leaving he said, "lousy meeting. Didn't get anything out of it." I asked him, "so what did you give to the meeting?" I never go to a meeting thinking about what I'm going to get out of it. I go to give anything I'm able to give, even if it's just a handshake or a hug. When I get to sit down and really talk to another drunk, I'm really thrilled. When I can give something away, I'm never disappointed. And, the funny thing is that when I give, I always get something in return. Peoople shake back, hug back, and share back.