All the things on your lists are good supplements to what my actual plan is- which began with deciding not to drink, ever again. First item in a plan, and if it is the only one, that's a complete plan to get sober. Recovery for me has meant a program for living not just sober, but healthy and free. Lots of items on that "plan list."
But my first plan and that first item....where it all starts. Do you want to be sober and get a life in recovery? Up to you, and there are plenty of folks around here like Dee who are making excellent contributions to your thread in attempts to help.
I used to assert that people misunderstood me all the time. I finally learned that the problem with "communication" was between my own ears.