Originally Posted by
CoParentToA 
Really not my intent to "get let in on private sessions" here.
My main motivation is understanding whether my ex actually HAS a sponsor - and if so, to have someone to reach out to if I think he's drinking again.
I used to see lots of alcoholics in meetings get their "attendance slips" for the court signed by whoever and then leave. They weren't actually going to meetings. Heck, I've heard of drinkers getting their attendance slips signed by their drinking buddies at the bar. No accountability, really, it's peer support - nothing more.
"Reaching out" to a "sponsor" if your EX husband drinks. How will that work? Do you think a sponsor has any more power over a drunk than the courts or a wife? I mean really?
There is no burden of proof in AA. There are no lie detectors. No one is paid. No one puts one hand on a Bible and the the other one in a salute while saying, "The truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth." No one owes anyone anything. It's like Sunday school. Costs a dollar and you get what you pay for.
Recovery looks like recovery.