Originally Posted by
maia1234 
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Have you tried any alanon meetings? I took the abuse from my axh for 34 years, till I was going crazy. I had to detach and move on.
Through alanon you can learn to detach with love. You don't need to enable your mother. Alanon has great tools for you to learn how to help yourself. She has no right to take you down with her disease. Please find a meeting near you. I think it would really help you. Hugs, you deserve so much more.
I unfortunately couldn't find any al-anon meeting where I live, I'm not from the States. It seems that it isn't widely available in my country, which is a bummer. I've been considering a family therapist or something like that though.