Hi, Atlast.
Okay, i recognize that your post is a venting one, and you are not necessarily looking for solutions.
But..what can I say? I’m a results oriented kinda gal, so here’s what I would do.
My opinion only, mind.
I would replace, if possible, the uncomfortable sleeping couch with a better sleep solution, like a futon, which can double for seating and sleeping.
Futons now have inner spring systems and are very comfortable to sleep on.
I know because my spouse doesn’t sleep well since surgery several years ago. He wakes during the night and has trouble going back to sleep.
Often he goes downstairs to the futon room and can winkle out a couple more hours of sleep.
So I would do that, and I would use it.
I know.
Why should you have to move when he is the one creating the situation?
Fact is, he ain’t moving and you need a peaceful night’s sleep.
There are larger issues here, clearly, but if you are not ready to leave the marriage and he isn’t, then I would work on getting a good night’s sleep.
I am not giving him a pass,btw. His behavior toward you and your concerns is typical of an alcohol addict, i.e. selfish.