Sally
First I want to send hugs and tell you that you are not alone.
Sometimes, when confusion takes over, it is a good time to just wait - to sit back and wait until our heads clear.
I don't know if you have been to any meetings, but I found that they really helped me stabilize and get grounded again.
Only you can decide what is right for you. Have you seen a lawyer and found out what your rights are regarding the house? Maybe that would help you decide.
Just know that we care.