I see what you mean August. I am not so much talking about that kind of fitting in though, I mean it more in the way of functioning.
I don't mean having to do the exact same things others do and like so much. I am okay about having odd interests or weird seeming routines or priorities.
I mean mostly things like going to the grocery store, meeting friends, going to meetings, using public transport, organising oneself. It's all things that I am getting better at, on the outside but that cause me very high levels of distress and leave me feeling so drained. But if I don't do them, then I feel like I will never fit into this world cause I will not be able to have a job or to take care of myself. I sure must adapt to a certain degree but I am unsure where to draw the line and how.